Parent to Parent: Cliques

For most children the need to fit in starts early in life.

But the desire to be popular also includes the heartbreak when that doesn't happen.

Adolescent cliques can be very hurtful, especially to the children left out.

Kelly Snisky, parent
"With Jane, when she was in 1st grade, we had tons of problems. With girls saying you can't play you're not pretty enough."

It may sounds like small stuff, but some experts say it's not.

Dr. Lea DeFrancisci Lis, NYU Child Study Center
"It can be devastating for kids to feel they have no one on their side."

There are ways parents can help. Experts recommend talking about your own experiences to help your kids understand how common it is. Be optimistic- highlight your child's attributes. Organize activities that can help your kids meet other children with similar interests.

Dr. Lea DeFrancisci Lis, NYU Child Study Center
"You really are allowed to be a private investigator in your child's life. You can't just take a back seat."

But parents need to remember to strike a balance.

Dr. Lea DeFrancisci Lis, NYU Child Study Center
"Kids need to have opportunities to navigate a little bit and to learn how to establish good friendships with people."

The best advice for parents: watch your kids closely and stay involved. That way, if a problem comes up, you are there to help.

(Copyright (c) 2008 Sunbeam Television Corp. All Rights Reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.)