Parent to Parent: Sibling rivalry

This is everyday life at the Lopez household.

Lauren and Gabby, 12-year-old identical twins, are suffering with a bad case of sibling rivalry.

Cary Lopez, mother
"It's overwhelming, and sometimes you got to take a lot of deep breaths."

Mom Cary says the girls fight pretty much every day.

Cary Lopez, mother
"I'm constantly bickering with them, 'don't fight, share.' They fight even if they have the same thing."

Experts say sibling rivalry can drive parents crazy, but it's also a great learning experience for kids.

Dr. Valerie Goode, parenting expert
"You learn how to argue, you learn how to negotiate, you learn how to plan out things."

But that doesn't mean it can't get out of control. As a parent you need to make sure you never compare your children. Instead, emphasize their differences. Second, pay attention to when and where the fighting usually breaks out. That way you can come up with diversions.

Dr Valerie Goode, parenting expert
"Let's say it's in the car. Maybe you have some activities to make the car rides not quite as long. Put some music to eliminate that tension in the car."

Experts say don't get caught up in trying to divide your time equally. It's impossible. Instead, make sure your kids know you're doing the best you can.

Cary Lopez, mother
"Me and my husband share. Like, he will take one somewhere, and I'll stay at home with the other one, and we'll alternate."

But, for now, it seems nothing makes Gabby and Lauren happy, but, they admit, it's just all part of being sisters.

Gabby Lopez, sister
"We cannot live without each other."

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